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A favourite tactic of the bully in the family is to set people against each other. The benefits to the bully are that:

a) the bully gains a great deal of gratification (a perverse form of satisfaction) from encouraging and provoking argument, quarrelling and hostility, and then from watching others engage in adversarial interaction and destructive conflict, and

b) the ensuing conflict ensures that people's attention is distracted and diverted away from the cause of the conflict

Bullies within the family, especially female bullies, are masters (mistresses?) of manipulation and are fond of manipulating people through their emotions (eg guilt) and through their beliefs, attitudes and perceptions. Bullies see any form of vulnerability as an opportunity for manipulation, and are especially prone to exploiting those who are most emotionally needy. Elderly relatives, those with infirmity, illness, those with the greatest vulnerability, or those who are emotionally needy or behaviourally immature family members are likely to be favourite targets for exploitation.

The family bully encourages and manipulates family members etc to lie, act dishonourably and dishonestly, withhold information, spread misinformation, and to punish the target for alleged infractions, ie the family members become the bully's unwitting (and sometimes witting) instruments of harassment.

Bullies are adept at distorting peoples' perceptions with intent to engender a negative view of their target in the minds of family members, neighbours, friends and people in positions of officialdom and authority; this is achieved through undermining, the creation of doubts and suspicions, and the sharing of false concerns, etc. This poisoning of people's minds is difficult to counter, however explaining the game in a calm articulate manner helps people to see through the mask of deceit and to understand how and why they are being used as pawns.

The bully may try to establish an exclusive relationship (based on apparent trust and confidence) with one family member such that they (the bully) are seen as the sole reliable source of information; this may be achieved by portraying the target (and certain other family members) as irresponsible, unstable, undependable, uncaring, unreliable and untrustworthy, perhaps by the constant highlighting - using distortion and fabrication - of alleged failures, breaches of trust, lack of reliability, etc. The process is reinforced by inclusion of the occasional piece of juicy gossip about the target's alleged misdemeanours or untrustworthiness in respect of relationships and communication with people. Mostly this is projection. The objective is to manipulate the family member's perceptions and create a dependency so that the family member comes to rely exclusively on the bully and see the bully as the sole source of reliable information whilst distrusting everyone else. Any person who is capable of exposing and breaking the dependency is targeted with venom and will find their name blackened at every opportunity.

When close to being outwitted and exposed, the bully feigns victimhood and turns the focus on themselves - this is another example of manipulating people through their emotion of guilt, eg sympathy, feeling sorry, etc. Female serial bullies are especially partial to making themselves the centre of attention by claiming to be the injured party whilst portraying their target as the villain of the piece. When the target tries to explain the game, they are immediately labeled "paranoid". Attention-seeking behaviour is common with emotionally immature people.

The serial bully is easy to spot once you know what you are looking at: Jekyll and Hyde nature, compulsive lying, manipulation (or emotions, perceptions, beliefs, etc), unpredictability, deception, denial, arrogance, narcissism, attention-seeking, etc - whilst always charming and plausible, especially when impressionable witnesses are present.

Serial bullies can be male or female - the main difference is that female bullies are more devious, more manipulative, more cunning, more sly, more psychological, more subtle, leave less evidence and will often bully with a smile. Female bullies will often manipulate a male into committing their violence for them. Male bullies tend to be less subtle, have a tendency towards physical aggression, and are generally less clever than female bullies. Females often display a greater tendency towards attention seeking behaviours.

What does bullying do to my health?

Bullying causes injury to health and makes you ill. How many of these symptoms do you have?

· constant high levels of stress and anxiety

· frequent illness such as viral infections especially flu and glandular fever, colds, coughs, chest, ear, nose and throat infections (stress plays havoc with your immune system)

· aches and pains in the joints and muscles with no obvious cause; also back pain with no obvious cause and which won't go away or respond to treatment

· headaches and migraines

· tiredness, exhaustion, constant fatigue

· sleeplessness, nightmares, waking early, waking up more tired than when you went to bed

· flashbacks and replays, obsessiveness, can't get the bullying out of your mind

· irritable bowel syndrome

· skin problems such as eczema, psoriasis, athlete's foot, ulcers, shingles, urticaria

· poor concentration, can't concentrate on anything for long

· bad or intermittently-functioning memory, forgetfulness, especially with trivial day-to-day things

· sweating, trembling, shaking, palpitations, panic attacks

· tearfulness, bursting into tears regularly and over trivial things

· uncharacteristic irritability and angry outbursts

· hypervigilance (feels like but is not paranoia), being constantly on edge
· hypersensitivity, fragility, isolation, withdrawal

· reactive depression, a feeling of woebegoneness, lethargy, hopelessness, anger, futility and more

· shattered self-confidence, low self-worth, low self-esteem, loss of self-love, etc


Charels A. Smith, professor and extension specialist in Family Studies and Human Services at Kansas State University is the featured speaker. According to Smith, children can learn to break down the bully triangle. "Three critical parties form a bully triangle - the bully, the potential victim and the audience," Smith said. "Bullies exist to intimidate the other two parties - to dominate and humiliate the victim and to intimidate and control onlookers."

"If the potential victim and the audience refuse to be intimidated and actively resist the bully's abuse of power, the bully will seek easier prey," Smith continued. "This means that the potential victim must refuse to kneel before the bully or flee in panic and shame. The audience must refuse to accept the passive spectator role and instead serve as active witnesses who intervene when victims are unable to defend themselves. Only courage makes this possible."

Nancy ‘s thoughts:

Sometimes it takes a very courageous act to swing attention from the bully or control freak’s victim on to yourself—if you are strong enough to take it. You can usually do this by appearing to be weak enough for the bully to accept you as an alternative victim. Once the changeover has been made, the control freak in the bully will not allow them to drop you, even after you show that you are stronger than they anticipated. I’ve done it, and it works.

Of course, it is easier and safer if you do not have to associate with the bully personally. Doing this on the internet is particularly challenging, because the bully always loves to hide behind enablers that just don’t ‘get’ what’s been going on, and they can be a harassing side trip to your mission. However, there are those delightful little buttons that can turn off the noise, once you learn to find them. In the near future I will hopefully find some interesting cases of family bullies and abusers, and some of the tragedies caused by the continued stress of families controlled by them.

This is like starting from the 'end' and going up to the beginning, but it is something that doesn't really need to be read in any order. Pick a message--any message, and it will feed right into describing a clear cut image of one or more of the disorders I've quoted in the material from experts, that I've brought here. Read them all, and it's overwhelming in its revelations.

It may prove quite disturbing to see a full blown episode of personality disorders coming from a person who cannot seem to stay away from this blog, but I am not the messenger, only the recorder. So, consider the source/s please.

I was really prompted to collate this and bring it out to see what others might think, or feel, by the increasing episodes of frantic, disjointed messages that have been appearing ever since Miz Macey appeared with her 'No Comments?" mantra, shortly after the material started going up on the blog. Whole comments and fragments of the materials have been pulled out of this blog and inserted on another site -- not only the ones that I deleted, but straight out plagerism of my personal work that is there for all to see.

There are still some comments on the "Newbies" thread, currently on Page 2 or maybe 3 after this, if you want to look that far.

It must be clear by now that there has been a horrendous response from Miz Macey and RealWorld over the material that has gone up. It does appear that they took each and every line as personal unto themselves.

Months ago, I went to RealWorld/HellBent's site, because I had been reading blogstream with the intention of putting up an 'abuse for control' blog, and in looking through what others were doing, I found his site, was disgusted by the way he was working over his previous relationship (whom he called his 'ex'), using intimidating language, threatening lawsuits, and all of this while he was under a restraining order not to do so! I told him to stop referring to that woman, stop the intimidation and threats and that I would be 'gone' from his site as long as he co-operated. He then deleted all of those denigrating posts and went on to 'make nice', like they had never existed. But they did, and they still do. I have copies. Short-sightedly, he believes that I am either his 'ex', or a relative. He just doesn't get it at all.

Somehow or other, Miz Macey entered the picture to champion 'poor RealWorld.' This reinforced his feeling that HE was not responsible for anything, and that the beat should go on. I then gave it up, and continued to build my blog. Very shortly thereafter, Miz Macey appeared and began her vendetta on this blog, since they could no longer troll me over to his site.

That is the background. And now let me bring you "The Chat Gang From Hell" and what led to it.

Around 9:51 p.m. on July 24, I received the following as a pvt. message from blogstream. I am going to have to clean this up a bit, because there is no way such language can be allowed on this provider. But what I got was the real thing, in living color, yet. And remember, this is from a 14 year old girl, who is not even legally on blogstream, and the chat which she frequents.


Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: MUNCHAUSEN SYNDROME
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/105059.html
From: twinky (Reply)
Comment: Why do you have to me such a mother f***ing
pr***k......wtf do u pick on f***ing people just to make you f***ing life better .....Well you no f***ing what u LEAVE MY F***ING FRIENDS ALONE...OK you HAVE NO F***ING RIGHT TO BE DISSING THEM OR ANY THINK ELTS. AHHHHHHHHH YOU TOTALLY PI**ED ME OFF B**CH NOW YOUVE GOT ANOUTHER PERSON HATEING YOU OK SOO F**K OFF


I looked at that for a while and knew that I had seen that name somewhere before. I checked the blogs I'd visited and lo & behold, on Miz Macey's site, appeared Twinky, or she comes on as Rachel, or Lil Angel, or Tricia, and she uses them ALL in chat, as we shall soon see.
Seeing this, I noticed that 'chat' had 4 people in it. I thought I'd do a bit of detective work. Sure enough there is Mz Macey, with a young man, and Angel/Tricia/Twinky/Rachel/whatever. Needless to say, the fellow wanted to know where he could spit, when he saw me. He soon 'left' (to a pvt. area, I'm sure). They wanted to know why I was there, and I said I was checking on WHY I was sent that filthy message. Didn't take much for ATTRW to yell that she hated me, and stated it in her most colorful manner.

Now Miz Macey steps in and is saying "What, Why did you do that?" Same response from 'Angel'. It went on for quite a while, and I made it very clear that I would not tolerate that from anyone and that it should be reported to blogstream abuse. That was followed by "This is our Chat--you get out! Leave!"

Then Miz Macey tried to calm her down and I don't remember exactly how it occurred, but I put 'Angel' on ignore and began to talk with Miz Macey to try to clear up whatever was going on in her head. Wondering why she was choosing to ignore what RW had been doing and that he was on a Restraining Order for SOMETHING, and his deleted posts showed some of it. About now 'Angel' left.

Miz Macey then asked what was in those posts. I repeated exactly what I'd told her before. How did I know they were deleted or ever existed? I told her where the EMPTY ones were on the history of his blogs.

We then did some small talk about some medical problems some folks were having and other chat.

Now she was taking a long time to answer back and I recognize those stretches from other chats, where people are having a pvt. talk with someone in another window. Yessireee Bob.

Then in comes "Rachel". She says she is 21 and wants to know if I have the blog that is mean to Miz Macey. Another row! Miz Macey the 'peacemaker' keeps telling her to quit, and I tell Macey, it's OK, she can think what she wants. I then put Rachel on ignore. In a while she 'leaves'.

Quick as a cat, Miz Macey turns on me and starts using the 'wh**e, the 'dumb a&&, and is pretty liberal with her four letter vocabulary all the way through. She says that I can NEVER talk about her 'friends'. She will defend them to the end. That this was HER chat group and they ran the place, and I was never to go there without expecting to get kicked or booed out. All of her friends. Yep, Miz Macey, one young fellow, "Angel" and the sock puppets!

She actually thought they had pulled off a hilarious ploy...letting me think that we could clear things up and that was never what she wanted. She WANTS the fight. Probably why she entered into it in the first place! She herself said on her blog once that she often does a BUI (blogging under the influence). It appeared that she may have been nipping all evening--at least I hope that's what it was. Anything else and it makes her a pretty scary person! Finally she said she was going to see if RW would come on. By now it's about 2 a.m. where he is, and I told her to set it up with him for tonight. To PM me about what he was going to do.

In the meantime, I saw that he was ripping off copy and comments from my blog and putting it on his blog again today. (Which about 3 people ever look at, I'd venture--probably the ones who'd already read it over HERE! heheheh I thought about last night and about today, and I decided BASTA. I decided to let it all fly and then get on with my life. The proof will be in this pudding.

Anyway one of the big points she kept making was "Why didn't I just delete that Newbies thread and ALL of her comments?" She's said that 3 or 4 times in the past week. If you look there, you will see a post where she pretends to be her 'husband', asking me to let his wife go so she can tend to her paying patients, for which she gets $120 an hour. Does she quit spamming Newbies? Nope. I realize that she CANNOT, but she doesn't want to have herself exposed in the manner which she does, each time she comments for attention.


So, it comes the time for her to get all of her attention. The saved /deleted comments are going up next. You can find all the rest on Newbies, 2nd/3rd page.

I have turned off the comments option for obvious reasons. Anyone who wishes may contact me by the e-mail in my profile.

After this, I am done with it. The blog will continue and I will find a way to block their access to it. I had no idea that there was as big a problem with these people as has turned up. I'm tired of listening to them yammer their delusions over and over, have their tantrums, and generally mess around with this blog--which has always been about dispensing some knowledge to help folks understand how to keep from being Victims of control and abuse freaks. Yes, it happens even and especially on the WWW.

You've seen it here.



July 26, 2006

This is a Private Message from Miz Mace in my e-mail today:

Hi ,


You have received a Private Message!

From: mizmace (Reply) Message: Ahhhhhhhhhhh... you chose plan C! But why miss, "author" are you accepting no comments??? Too much for you... as I knew it would be (301.83)! But now more than fifty bloggers have seen you lack of balls, so to speak... they were all there... and surpise, surprise...YOU, were not!!! And now you have posted this edited crap on your blog... fine... get ready... I will no longer keep the others out of this.... happy blogging psycho bully!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Much love... Macey


Cover Up and Lie, Cover up and Lie--there were never 50 people in chat last night (sock puppets of a delusional mind?) There is no need to have edited, except for the foul language to be acceptible to the server. Everything is straight from the shoulder and the hip! Not that these newest smoke screen blitherings have anything to do with the issue at hand...except to the Miz. They are the type of things she uses to validate her continued spamming of my 'space'.

BTW, when you receive "much love" and a little red heart greeting from Miz Mace, folks, remember what has gone on here to know what is really in that 'heart'.

However the message also will be forwarded to Abuse. Inciting harm against and stalking a senior citizen sounds like a good place to start. Anything of 'importance' that turns up will be reported here, though I don't think that's going to happen. This issue is pretty-much a dead one.

Back now to the original premise of this Blog. Thank you for your patience during the detour and reconstruction process.

Sun July 23 - Mon July 24 2006

Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Ahhhhhhh, it finally happened, as is often the case with borderline personality types. You could not face the true issues, you resorted (incessantly) to attempting to pretend that these comments have NOTHING to do with your blog.... and in reality... they have EVERYTHING to do with your blog. You have labeled Real World, a "classic control freak." And that does not pertain to your blog? Are you feeling okay? You were hoping that you could spew your verbal diahrea and then we all would feel intimidated, and "go away." When that didn't happen, you became frustrated and scared that others would see your limitations and sickness. Next you tried name calling... that made you look even more foolish. Now that you have realized you are dealing with a professional...your ONLY option is to....ummmmmm...."CONTROL" matters, by deleting my comments. Thank you for the compliment... you have confirmed my intial assessments of your condition. And to think, all I wanted was to see that you were as "intelligent," as you had initially appeared. I truly believed you would look at just how visciously you attacked a fellow blogger, one who you say you don't even know??? And yet, you say you understand the dynamics of control... Nancy... you really don't see that as a control issue? If not... then please don't profess to understand such dynamics. People are counting on you for the truth here, and you could have appeared so much more authentic... admitting to our shortcomings is a sign of being a well balanced individual. But here we stand... with you in "control," because ironically THAT is all that matters to you. Sorry I struck such a nerve, but of course I know what I am doing by now... 20 years as a therapist, and you thought I wouldn't know how to expose you? But now that I have... I will be banished from your "kingdom!" And that is okay... because, in doing so, you have given me the evidence I had already assumed you would give, to know that you cannot handle this situation, or my strength. You know Nancy..."anyone" can read and regurgitate a text book or article, but it takes a wise and genuine individual to really represent what they say. Carry on... I know I will, and knowing that, as easy as it may have been... I have read you right from the beginning. And oh, by the way... if you choose to "delete" my comment, as you inevitably will, then do not MAKE any further comments in reference TO me...unless... you would like me to return with a vengeance.... we both know you don't want me to expose you any further... so enjoy your "copied" blog... too bad you couldn't offer folks something other than a look at already published material. Even "I" thought there was more to you than that. Love me or else... well at least that is a good beginning... but it would fit so much better if you re-named it... love me or else...a self-portrait. Love me or else..by Nancy! Love me or else... bye Nancy!MUCH LOVE... MACEY

Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: But read fast folks... this one will not last long!
Much love... Macey

Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: One "last" comment miss Nancy... you can go ahead and delete this... but how many read it before you could? And then they will return to see your desperate attempt to "control" when I am no longer here....oh my... what can one do? Much love... Macey

Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Good job... right into my hands... but that is where you have always been... sorry to have been so hard on you... but Nancy... you know why...Much love... Macey

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Question: Why delete my last comment(s)... and not the rest of your "Newbie" post as you do not need it anymore? Hope you get help old gal...even at your age.. life could be different. Talk to all of these "therapists" you know... ask them about a borderline personality... your life could be so different! Much love... Macey

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: ROTFL............honey... "cleaning up" seems to be your only talent... floors and all... You are what life refers to as a "bottom feeder!" At best. But... you could change...even Charles Manson could! Much love... Macey Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh, hurry nancy, hurry, before anyone sees...DELETE, DELETE, DELETE!!!! Are you okay now? Relax... old gal... you can still get help......... really!

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Checkmate!!! Delete me, and in doing so, it demonstrates that I have been right all along. OR... post me... and then you have to post 'ALL' of me... or I will [post the rest]! Either way... the real "Nancy" is about to be revealed. Sorry hun, but hopefully this will make you think twice before "attacking" a fellow blogger..."without" cause. Much love... Macey

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: RealWorld (Reply)
Comment: Yes Macey, you need to cut this out, or Rocky will have to take her toys and run back to mommy and tell on you!

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: I see my "experiment" worked... and it was even easier than I thought... all I had to do is post a few comments, making myself "look" like a "control freak," and, as expected... you left them on the board. But yet, my last "informative" post that pointed out Nancy's true need to control... has conveniently been deleted. Picking and choosing in order to present one side, and/or a skewed image... IS a direct attempt to... guess what? "CONTROL!!!" And so this will will likely be chosen for deletion as well. But that's okay... I have saved every commment from here as I knew I would need to protect myself... so that if and when I need to, I can display the ENTIRE exchange for all to see. Carry on guys! I have not read your next "response" Nancy, but even without doing so... I am guessing it includes at least one attempt to resort back to personal name calling, so to speak. And my behavior is childish??? Much love... Macey

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Ok, I read your latest post, and "surprise," I was right (personal attack)! Please don't flatter yourself Nancy, I hardly exist to read your comments, but even with my busy schedule, I can, and will, always make time to defend another person who has been wronged. Just because I don't run away from you, an experience you seem to be used to, and comfortable with, does not mean I have "problems." And if you weren't afraid to present the whole picture here, I would guess that most who followed it through from beginning to end (including you incessant posting on Real World's blog) would easily see the truth. God Bless.. and much love... Macey

Mon 7/24 - Tues 7/25 2006
Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Hello Nancy... sorry but I feel the need to step in at this point... my wife is a very well respected and successful therapist, with the world's biggest heart. I was curious as to why she was spending almost all of her free time on the computer lately. So she gave me the background, basically about this situation. She has spent a lot of time here trying to help defend another blogger (as she tells me they are called.) I have taken the time to read your blog as well as her on-line friend, Real World's... and now I see why she has stayed in the fight. My lady has a heart of gold, and an inner drive to defend anyone who has experienced unnecessary bullying. From what I have read... she has put a lot of work into trying to help you, but now I feel the need to voice my opinion. Her schedule is VERY busy... and although her heart is in the right place Mam, unless you are willing to pay her fee of $120.00 per hour, I think she would be of more value with her clients that need her. She is not happy that I am writing to you, but I feel strongly that you needed an eye-opening. I read her notes that she had written at work today, on a response she was going to send to you... and I did agree to pass this on to you, if she would let me speak my mind... so in honor of my baby...(her words)..."Nancy... you can delete all comments here, but Real World is compassionate and savvy enough to expose you on his site. All of my comments are there, thanks to the fact that he is a caring gentleman. By the way... if you really want me (her) to stop commenting here... send me a PM (whatever that means) being honest and saying that you have had enough... this way you can tell me what I already know, and still save face. And I will gladly leave as this is so very tedious, predictable, and yes boring. OR... anytime you comment TO or ABOUT me, you will hear FROM me! Stay off of Real Worlds blog, condition number two...or deal with me... your choice. And hey, maybe your next post could be on "301.83"... Look it up in the current DSM"! OKAY... that was the end of her notes, but now I am asking that you leave my wife free to help those who need her...please. You have no idea who this lady is... she is my Mugwai (her icon) for a reason. Please move on... Mr. Mason

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply
Comment: Do what you will Nancy... but do not disrespect my husband... he is a good man. And thinks he is doing the right thing.... you need to tread very carefully here....MACEY, MSW

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Whatever your concern with some ISP is... sorry but I don't get it.. and don't care miss nancy and rocko... but wow!!! Wow!!! Anyway.... join us tomorrow guys... okay?

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Hun... you are right, my husband could be a therapist... but not yours. You are still applying the same tactic here... smoke screen....post...smoke screen...post...smoke screen...post...BUT now since you have both exposed and embarassed yourself on chat... well then... looking forward to your next feeble attempt... it should be fun angel... see ya' then! Much love....Macey

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh........"rocko,"...............good point................

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Ladies, I have no idea what your reference to my IP means. I live in Eastern Oregon... not a very populated area... we only have a couple of choices... People PC recently set up in the area, and that's who I use. I hope that helps to calm your paranoia. Nancy, I am sorry that Trisha got involved in all of this... I have tried for months to keep everyone out of this... and if you don't believe that, well, trust me, you would have a LOT more comments if I hadn't. We are a very bonded group on chat. We are there to relax and have fun. So when you came on last night and went after Trisha, it did not go over well at all. She has a very hard life, and yes she is 14, but the chatroom has embraced her because she usually conducts herself in very mature manner. But you made her feel attacked (hmmmmmmmmmmm....) and even you should know that when a teenager feels threatened... they often resort to foul language in attempt to vent their anger. Not nice, not effective, but very common. Anyway... you mentioned wanting to meet on chat... your choice... but it will not go well for you...even if you bring your toady Rocko. I will be on at 6:00, stop by if you wish. Who knows perhaps that will put an end to this garbage once and for all. And by the way ladies...if my actions don't appear to be those of a therapist...again... that is because I am not trying to be your therapist! I am respoonding as a fellow blogger and have actually presented some very professional posts in the process, some of which have been (conviniently) deleted by Miss Control Freak herself. Enjoy the day... maybe I'll chat with you later Nancy. Much love... Macey

Blog: Love Me--Or ELSE!
Post: NEWBIES
URL: http://abuseforcontrol.blogstream.com/v1/pid/99377.html
From: mizmace (Reply)
Comment: Deleted... again? Oh well, just wanted to mention that I would hope that you would not have Trisha kicked off the blogstream... she is a lonely young lady who has reached out here because of her home life. Being here is a sort of "lifeline" for her, and for you to do so simply because you can... would be well... nothing more than a power trip on your part. See YA! Much love... Macey

From: mizmace (Reply)
Message: Oh Miss Nancy... just like the school yard bully... talk, talk, talk,... and then when you realize that "good" people have "good" friends...just like rocko...you crawl back into your hole!!! I know you are agonizing here... I mean... show up... and be shown for who you really are... or don't show... and everyone will know WHY. But hey, you could go with plan "B"... and leave a post tomorrow stating that some unforeseen occurance came up... and you simply could not be here! What a joke, old girl... but after tonight... YOU have officially been exposed... so leave me, and Real World ALONE!!! No more comments... ANYWHERE!!! GOT IT??? IT'S OVER NANCY...FINALLY!!!!! Much love.... Macey

And this just in from "Twinky", which WILL be reported to Abuse. It is a 'threat' sent on the internet. And THIS is what Mz Macey thinks is OK, just kid stuff? How does a child ever learn to be responsible for their actions if they can get away with and/or be encouraged by an adult for their 'intelligence' when they act out in this manner?

10:26 PM, July 25, 2006. (cleaned up by me)
From: twinky (Reply)
Message: ur rude u thretien ppl u evil old b**ch..u need to watch ur self u old lady...like i said b4 leave MY FRIENDS ALONE OK SO U AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

THE END.

Consider what you see here. The MULTITUDE of comments and private messages that have gone up in just 2 days, besides the ones on Newbies that I failed to collect or did not delete. Looking at it all, it begins to be pretty clear why some poor woman somewhere had to seek a restraining order.

Does anyone consider this a rational act of a person and friends, who have not had a visit from me in over a month? I cannot change the truth, I cannot ease the conscience. I told it like I saw and read it, gave my comments for a week or so, and then left. They brought it to me, and they should never forget that.

Anything else that comes to this blog or my mail from these people, anything that I see that is usurped and used elsewhere, will be considered 'stalking' and WILL be reported to whatever authorities that are at my disposal.